Size Matters

Happy Monday and Happy Labor Day everybody! I hope that you have all had a great long weekend and that you are ready for BIG things this week! Speaking of BIG, this Monday’s Motivational Message revolves around the idea that Size Matters. 

Yes, I said it. Because it does. It’s time to stop thinking small and start thinking BIG.

Time and time again you have heard me say “speak it into existence”. Remember that, when I tell you that if you want an abundant lifestyle you have to go where abundance is. Read that again once, and then continue on. This means avoiding small. And by avoiding small I mean avoiding small social circles, small dreams, staying in small cities and most of all small-minded people. And surround yourself with BIG things. And by big things I mean big dreams/goals, big thoughts, big leaps of faith, big trust in the Universe (or whatever faith system you believe in), big-minded people, and big destinations.

So let’s start with thoughts, dreams and goals. The first step in creating the life of your dreams is with a single thought. Because a singe thought is all that it takes to get the law of attraction working. When you think negatively or positively you are putting that out into the Universe to come true. So, start thinking bigger. Every morning think of the life that you want to live. Everyone says “start small”, and we will get to those kinds of people later, but let me just tell you that IT IS OKAY TO START BIG. Don’t limit yourself, because of the fear that other people (who aren’t effected by the choices) instill inside of you. It is okay to wake up in the morning and have your first thought be your ultimate goal. Because it gives you something BIG to think about, to manifest and to work towards throughout the day. Which takes us to BIG DREAMS. Big dreams are something that we have been conditioned as millennials to think about, but not actively pursue - and let me tell you why. We have had too much fear instilled in our generation - from small minded people. The fears of failing, of running out of money, of not being happy, of not actually using our degrees, of making the “wrong choices”, and most of all the fear of not being “successful”. Which is why there are so many people who never pursue their dreams, because the world tells them that they are “too big”. That there is a “one in a million chance” and their “odds are not good enough”. But when you start to think BIG - you realize that your dream is bigger than any of those fears you may have. Do you think that the most successful people in the world weren’t scared when they started their businesses, or took those first steps? THEY WERE TERRIFIED. But now, they’re living the lives they always wanted. Because they let their aspirations take the wheel, instead of their fears and doubts.

Which is why it is important to have BIG faith - and I’m not talking just religion, or whatever you may believe in. But in yourself. Remember in elementary school when your teacher asked you to write down what you wanted to be when you got older? You didn’t stare at the paper and overthink what your strengths and weaknesses were. You didn’t wonder “is this a realistic job for me?” NO. You wrote your dream job down on the damn paper and believed with all of your heart that THAT is what you were going to do when you grew up. So, be that little girl or boy again. Have the faith in yourself that you had when you wrote down that dream job in elementary school. The job, the dream, the goal may be different - but keep your faith the same. Truly believe in yourself when you let go of your fear and take that first BIG leap of faith. Tell yourself that you WILL reach the goal you’ve set. You WILL start that company, or that new job. You WILL live the abundant life that you have always wanted.

On your journey to abundance - you are going to lose some people. And its okay, because anyone that you lose in this process is a small-minded person. You see, people love comfort zones. When you are a “normal” person who wants your every day job, has the same “American dream” and is always comfortable with where you are at in life - YOU become comfortable for other people to be around. But the moment that you start reaching for something BIGGER, is the moment that you stop being a comfort zone for some people. And you have to accept that, even when it hurts. Not everyone that you love is going to support you and your BIG dreams. And I’m not telling you to get rid of them, and I’m not saying that they are wrong, but I’m telling YOU not to settle with THEIR opinions and THEIR support. Instead, put yourself out there, all of you - without reservations, and see who you resonate with. When you are putting the best version of yourself forward, you begin to attract people of the same vibrations and energy. THAT is when you can start to surround yourself with likeminded people and other dreamers. And not only the people that dream just as big as you, but even bigger. Because you are the company that you keep. I had a friend in high school whose dad used to use the phrase “when you hang around shit long enough, you start to smell like it”. It has always kind of stuck with me, because it’s true. When you surround yourself with small-minded people, you don’t think as openly. When your friends aren’t reaching for their goals, there isn’t any motivation for you to reach yours when you’re around them. When you have a group of five friends that are negative, eventually you will become the sixth negative friend. Why? Because you get comfortable. And you are no longer looking at the bigger picture, you are looking at what is right in front of you and making that your normality.

And it’s not just friends - it can be significant others as well. If you know me personally you know that I dabble in everything and anything that excites me. I like to get involved all over the map, and lay all of my cards out on the table. I had an ex-boyfriend who used to tell me ALL the time that I was “doing too much”. That I needed to pick one thing and get really great at it, and forget about everything else. Which at the time I thought was solid advice, until I saw how narrow-minded I had become. During our relationship I spent time away from him, and that’s when I realized that I was never doing “too much”, it was just that he wasn’t doing enough. And that didn't make him a bad person, and I am not trying to speak ill of him in any way. I just realized in that moment that we were not on the same wavelength and that he supported me as long as it was comfortable for him. I also realized in that moment that if I chose to spend my life with him that I would be limiting myself and getting held back from my dreams. Not because he was intentionally holding me back, but because I knew that I would make decisions based on his comfort level. And I was not okay with that. Someone who is actively chasing their goals either has to have a COMPLETELY supportive partner OR no partner at all. So, I made the choice to go separate ways and I started meeting and surrounding myself with people who were on my same wavelength or higher. That didn't mean the same career choices, or the same goals. But that they were chasing their goals and dreams at the same pace and momentum that I was. These people inspired me, and motivated me without words. And my life slowly started to change. It is amazing what positive energy can do for your life and your BIG goals.

So, as you end your holiday weekend, and get ready to begin a new week and new month start thinking BIG. Don’t worry so much about telling your big dreams to everyone, but instead worry about believing your BIG dreams and taking that leap of faith towards them. It’s a new week, a new month, a new mindset. And I know that you are going to thrive, once you realize that SIZE MATTERS.

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